Living as a mom

Archive for November 28th, 2008

Believe it or not, we had an amazing Thanksgiving this year. In the past it hasn’t been so fabulous because I am a reformed perfectionist and I imagine how others are judging me. I also had certain expectations for the family that no one else had. Basically, I have learned about showing myself and others grace. This lesson was hard to learn, but it has made my life at the holidays exponentially better. Here is what I have learned in a nutshell.

1. My family members are who they are, and I cannot change that. It is my job to love each person, not change each one.
2. I know who to ask to bring certain items to a holiday celebration based on when they arrive typically.
3. E and I have pared down the menu significantly so that we both are able to enjoy the family and not spend the day cooking.
4. I plan specific activities for the children so that they are happy and entertained.
5. E and I delegate jobs during the day. For example, this year E had my sister doing some prep work in the kitchen, and my dad and I set up the tables.
6. I start rearranging the house a week or two before the holiday so I have enough time to get it all done and I can work slowly.
7. E and I work together to clean the house thoroughly the day before the holiday.
8. E and I do some food preparation the day before the holiday.
9. E and I simply work together to make the holiday a success!
10. I trust God to make it all happen!

What have you learned about making holiday celebrations great?