I can’t believe that our baby is due in 17 days! We have been so busy preparing for the big arrival. The girls have been really helpful, too. Then there is a bit of anxiety about how everything will turn out. This is an exciting time!
As I become a more experienced mom, I continue to lean more and more towards holistic/attachment parenting ideas. I like to feed my family whole foods as much as possible. I strive to get my family to exercise regularly. I used a sling with my girls and “wore” both of them as much as possible. I nursed my two girls until they were 14 and 18 months respectively and plan to nurse our third baby for as long as the baby and I want to. I even let A3 sleep with us if she wakes in the middle of the night, which I never would have done in the past. I am also considering eco-friendly diapers this time around. And the choice that sets me apart where I live is that I gave birth naturally twice, once with an OB/GYN and once with a midwife, and I plan to again. This time I am considering a water birth, too. In fact, I have always wanted to have a home birth, but E doesn’t feel comfortable with that idea.
I guess what surprises me is that I wanted so much control in the beginning and now I’m not expecting nearly as much control. My plan was to be an incredible mom. I was going to stay at home so I could focus on raising our children. I would cook delicious meals and bake with the kids. My children would be well-behaved and polite. I would have a clean and orderly house. Our kids would have a strict bedtime routine, go to bed without any fuss, and sleep through the night every night.
Then I met our kids.
I learned quickly that I can’t have all of the control. I can set the routine, but I have to be flexible. Sometimes the kids need something different than what was planned. Sometimes I need to change it up so I can make it through the day. There is a pile of clean laundry in my house all of the time because, quite frankly, I have lots of things that I need to do, and I don’t always have the interest or the time to get to the clothes. I now understand that I can teach my children right from wrong, but ultimately, they are responsible for their own choices. There are days and nights that my children need to be close to Mommy and Daddy, so they snuggle in our bed with us. There are also nights that Mommy cannot be a mother for another second and Daddy is expected to take over nurturing duties for a while.
So my kids have taught me how to be a good mother, the mother that they need instead of the mother I imagine I should be. And here I thought I was going to do all of the teaching!
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With baby #3 I am looking into environmentally friendly diaper options. There are so many choices today that are reasonably priced, seemingly easy to use, and super cute. It has my head spinning since I only used disposable diapers with my 2 girls. I am interested in gDiapers (cloth and flushable), FuzziBunz, and bumGenius. I am looking for your feedback since I’m sure there are many experts on environmentally friendly diapering. Have you used cloth or flushable diapers? If so, what are the pros and cons to the brand you prefer? Remember that I have to convince my skeptical husband that the diapers we choose are indeed better for the environment as well as convenient and easy to use. I need compelling arguments!
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Today my sweet girl turns 6! I can’t believe it. Where has the time gone? It was a fun day full of celebrating with family. She ate all three meals out today. Who gets to do that?? She was just cute as a button telling us how happy she was and that this was the best birthday ever!
Now C6 has this Fancy Nancy tea party with her friends coming up. I have great ideas for that celebration that I’ll share with you soon…
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Being pregnant with baby #3 has been tough. I did this on purpose, right? Of course it is all worth it in the end! I have morning sickness, but it isn’t as bad as it was with the first two pregnancies. It’s harder, though, because I have two active, precocious children to educate and care for. I am tired and cranky, but I don’t have any fight in me these days. I’ve let a lot of things go lately, including the house. The kids are on to me, too, so they are getting into lots of things these days. It sometimes feels like I’ve lost all of the control here. I can’t wait to start feeling better so I can be in charge!
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I am embarrassed by how long it has taken me to get back to my blogs! Please accept my sincere apologies, dear readers!
I hope you noticed the new ticker on my sidebar.
Yes, I am pregnant with baby #3!
We are so very excited about the news. What a blessing this baby is! If you have been following my blog, you know that we have wanted to grow our family for a long time, but we just weren’t sure if we were willing to take the risks that come with that decision. I have a history of postpartum depression, and I have been medicated for about 3 years now. It is likely that I will have trouble with another pregnancy. We have spent the last couple of years praying and seeking advice from various health professionals and finally decided to take the leap of faith.
After considering the advice from my doctor, we decided that it would be best for me to stay on my antidepressants through this pregnancy. This was a difficult decision for me as I know that there is a slight risk of birth defects. We are trusting God on this one, though. “Every good and perfect gift is from above” James 1:17. We both are at peace with this choice now, knowing that in the end, I will be a better mother for it. We are praying for a healthy baby, a healthy mom, and a healthy family.
I can’t believe that we are having another baby!! It feels great to share the news now!
What do you think of when I mention the dentist? Do you think of that Bill Cosby routine where he talks about the Novocaine numbing him so much that he couldn’t talk ?
What thoughts does bringing your children to the dentist conjure up? Is it a lot of work? Do you have a child who is frightened of the dentist? Going to the dentist with a child who has SPD can be a nightmare that goes beyond the typical fear children have from doctor’s visits and unfamiliar situations.
Today I brought both of my kids to the dentist. This was the second time that C5 had ever been to a dentist. Her first trip to the dentist was about a year ago, and it was by far the worst medical experience that C5 and I ever had together – even worse than getting shots. I was frustrated, and she was terrified. The dentist pushed through the exam even though C5 was panicked and screaming. Things really went awry when the dentist insisted that I lay down on the chair and restrain C5 so that she could count her teeth. You can be sure that C5 and I will never forget that, and we’ll never go back to that dentist.
In an effort to avoid living through that again, I got a referral from our pediatrician for a new dentist. Other moms told me how wonderful this new particular dentist is. So I dove in and made an appointment for both kids. It turned out to be a great decision!
Today C5 panicked just as the hygienist touched her mouth. It took some time to calm her down and coax her back into the chair. Our hygienist spent a long time showing her the instruments and explaining the procedures step by step. With much patience the hygenist was able to clean C5′s teeth and finish most of the exam. This hygienist even got C5 to laugh! The dentist himself was also quite successful with his examination. He explained that his approach is to establish trust and then help kids learn cope with the whole dental experience rather than avoid things that cause problems for child such as noise and light. He believes that it is the best way to equip children with special needs for the real world. I completely agree with him. We are returning to the dentist in a couple of weeks in order to establish that dental visits are OK and to build familiarity. He is even going to try to do things that are unexpected in order to teach C5 how to cope with a dentist visit.
C5 was positive and proud at the end of the visit. She was trilled that she was able to tell everyone all the things that she learned at the dentist. She was also particularly excited about one discovery that the dentist made. C5 has two loose teeth.
HERE COMES THE TOOTH FAIRY!
We have been so very busy with house projects and travel lately. Summers really are insane in New England. Everyone squeezes as much into these few months as possible since the weather is so wonderful this time of year. We are no different than all of the other families around here. August looks just as busy as June and July have been. I am glad that we are having so much fun and getting tons of projects finished. Will we ever slow down, though??
We are continuing to prepare for the arrival of the Tooth Fairy even though no one has a loose tooth yet. It never hurts to be prepared, I suppose.
At the library I found a great Tooth Fairy book by accident – Tooth Fairy’s First Night (Carolrhoda Picture Books). The girl in the book does not believe that the Tooth Fairy exists so she sets up a hunt complete with clues to make the TF find her tooth. Then the TF sets up a hunt for the girl to find her treasure. I wonder if out Tooth Fairy will do the same for us… It would be fun to write letters to the Tooth Fairy and to read her responses.
Every kid needs a place to put a lost tooth so the TF can find it. While we were shopping at a local arts and crafts store today, the gilrs picked out two heart shaped, wooden boxes. This afternoon they decorated their boxes. They were so funny talking about having loose teeth while they were painting. The excitement is building!
We have researched the Tooth Fairy pretty extensively now. Plus we have a place to put the lost teeth. We are ready for a tooth to fall out a moment’s notice! Who is more excited about the Tooth Fairy – me or the kids? I’m hoping that her much anticipated arrival lives up to their expectations.
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My sweet 5 year old has discovered the Tooth Fairy. A good friend of hers recently lost a tooth, and someone at Vacation Bible School told her about her experience with the Tooth Fairy. There has been a lot of excitement about teeth that might be loose. It has also spurred some questions about this mysterious character. Today C5 wanted to know where the Tooth Fairy lives. I avoided the question because I just didn’t have a good answer for her. I don’t remember ever asking my folks about that. Was I really not that curious as a child? Why is it always my kid who needs to know all of the details about something when she gets interested in it?
I did some research for my inquisitive child. Now I am armed with answers! (Oh, I found out that the TF lives in Tooth Fairyland in the sky, of course!)Maybe you haven’t had the pleasure of preparing for the Tooth Fairy to visit your home yet, so hopefully you will benefit from what I found out.
~ A good friend told me that the Tooth Fairy always left a letter with the cash reward for her daughter. You can find all kinds of letters at this Squidoo page.
~ There are many books out there about the Tooth Fairy. Some even include folklore from other cultures about her.
~ Many parents online recommend that you think about how much money the TF will bring because your child will expect the same thing every time the Tooth Fairy comes. It seems that the going rate is $1, but many TF’s bring coins instead of paper bills.
~ I have a friend whose TF brings a little gift such as brightly colored floss along with the cash. What a great way to promote oral hygeine!
~ Many of your Tooth Fairy questions can be answered at Write the Toothfairy.
Just think of the Tooth Fairy as another opportunity to celebrate the magic of childhood and make memories with your children!